Life always offers two options either to accept or to reject any given situation. What is important is how do we handle the situation? In the modern world, where logical thinking has occupied the whole brain space, a very little possibility is left to act positively. In normal life, people tend to blame each other for their misery and try to ensure that they stand on it. Of course, someone becomes the medium of our suffering but is this the fact or the outcome? In most cases, it is the outcome of our perception which prompts us to blame someone for our misery and the action of blame generates an equal and opposite reaction from the other person whom we blamed. It does not matter that who served the ball first-but our reaction certainly does.
We might argue by saying that the other one responsible, pathetic, horrible, and so on....but when we explore it deeply we will find that our perception is the link of the cause and effect chain. Everyone is different and unique. So how can we expect others to stand up to our values, our equations of solutions?
What happens when we do not accept others? we are not accepted as well. It applies in case of every emotion as well. On the other hand, when we learn to accept and appreciate others we too get appreciated. The human being on the earthly plane is not free from the cause and effect. While we have the privilege to choose most of us to end up by choosing war over peace, hatred over love, cruelty over kindness, and so on. As a result what we find around us is fight, hatred, jealousy, greed which largely leads towards nonacceptance.
"Accept contradictions and correction cheerfully.
Accept insults and injuries.
Accept being slighted, forgotten, and disliked.
To be kind and gentle even under provocation."
Mother Teresa, The Joy in Loving: A Guide to Daily Living
The very purpose of our birth is to live peacefully and happily but when it comes to deciding on what to choose we easily choose the negative traits although we want to live a happy and peaceful life. Our instinct is to love and to be loved which is covered under the sheet of fight and flight-a behavior similar to animal behavior on the planet. The emotion of fear, greed, jealousy, hatred rules our mind and covers our basic instinct to love everyone and to accept everyone the way they are.
Why do even the most successful people fail to make a lasting relationship? Why the world divorce rate has drastically increased in the last five decades? Why the trend of joint family has seen a paradigm shift in most countries?
The divorce rate in Europe in 2016, by country. Portugal has the highest rate of divorce at 69 per every 100 marriages in 2016. This was followed by Luxembourg and Denmark with 65.9 and 56. The global divorce rate has increased up to 251.8 % since 1960. Every year, world organizations such as the UN record global divorce rates.
Marriages are believed to be fixed in heaven while the divorce is a third dimension activity. In most divorce cases we use the term incompatibility. We forget that we are not a robot, we are a human being. In a relationship, we emphasize on complaining rather than concentrating on what we want and how it can be achieved. We tend to choose hatred over love in this case.
"Far too many people are looking for the right person, instead of trying to become the right person"
- Gloria Steinem
Forgiveness is the weapon that is capable of destroying your biggest enemy i.e, resentment. One has to practice forgiveness to unwrap the love from within. Without forgiveness, love can not exist. The ego becomes a hurdle in forgiving someone. Love is the varied nature of all human beings but it is buried under the ego, hatred, jealousy, greed, fear, and worry.
In modern days, an increasing number of old age homes implies the degradation of family relationships which is caused by non-acceptance.We have reached out to marsh and moon, we claim to have understood the principle of the universe but we might have forgotten this small beautiful word 'Love'.We spend our entire life in search of happiness but how many of us lead a happy life? No one can be ever happy in the absence of love and kindness. It's really good to be ambitious to make a beautiful world full of peace and happiness but it is even better to start with our own family and relationships.
source - https://www.indiatoday.in/education-today/gk-current-affairs/story/india-has-the-lowest-divorce-rate-in-the-world-1392407-2018-11-20
https://www.womansday.com/relationships/g20888175/relationship-quotes/?slide=2
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